There was a time when a man and a woman had sense. Least they acted like they did you know? Back in my day when I was comin up there was the notion that if a man courted you, that's what he done, he courted you. Wasn't no in between where you was doing stuff you had no business cause there was plenty of them kinda gals round town that had been doin stuff they had no business doin and now they business was in front of em like big ole knots and them knots come up to be babies and then kids. Most times them gals back in my day didn't have no husband to speak of neither cause that fella she had that baby for was gone on to the next hot tail gal. They just had to make do with what they had with the choice they made to do stuff they didn't have no business doin'.
Baby I don't have but one kinda of Kool-aid honey and that's red so just go on and get that sugar over there and put some off up in that big pitcher of there. No not that green one I used that for my flowers only use that big gray one next to it.
I think I'm going to get out some chicken just fry that.
Like I was saying though, yes honey there was time it was alright to call on a woman and spend some time with her. It really was. And it was nice to be able to get dressed and make the young man wait on you til you got ready in the back of your mamma's house. Oooh Lord I remember that so well. Henry would be on the front porch with my Daddy and he be so scared to step foot the wrong way or even set down next to my Daddy. And I was all of sixteen back then. Them was some good days they really was. Henry would come and see me and he would come and stand out there on the porch for me. My Mamma wouldn't even come out there she would stay in the kitchen and peep out the side window see if she could hear or something. I would be in the back trying to grease my old ashy legs up with some of that fat left from breakfast. Wasn't no such thing as no lotion for just regular days that was for Sundays and weddings stuff like that.
I be so happy to see Henry too. We go walking or sitting on the porch with my Daddy. Daddy didn't want me goin too far with him. He always used to say "A man want something and what want he knows and he determined to get it, he ain't no man yet so since he don't know and I ain't finna help him help hisself to a few minutes wit my chile til he figure it out" So Daddy watched us all the time til I turned seventeen.
Ole Henry he kept on coming too and I kept wantin to see him all the time. Be missin him bad when he would be gone a week or two working on the railroad and working learnin how to drive that dozer.
Young people now days they don't wanna wait for nothin' they just keep right on doing what they wanna do with no thought, no waitin no nothin. They just go, for right for it cause it look good and it feel good and they be burnin to cool each other off. I mean I know you shocked and all that to hear me say that but I been young once too and I know what it feel like to want to be doin stuff with somebody you really like. I know. But then some of yall don't know when to draw the line. Yall just keep on going and going and keep on letting them young mens just keep on coming over and coming over and he ain't bringing nothing but his three legs with him. Two of which when he done he gonna get up and walk away from you with cause you didn't make him come see you, come court you.
So when he start coming when he feel like using his three legs and just come see you at night, don't wanna take you out to no movie or see his family, don't be surprised cause you didn't set no rules in the beginning. You let him set the rules. So don't be mad at him cause he doing what you told him was alright to do to you even without saying the words. Cause you wanted to feel good for a moment. I know you be lonely, I know you be wantin somebody to hold you at night. Who don't want that in they life? But if you looking for a quick fix it's a bunch of folk out there willing to come and help you for a few minutes but are they willing to stick around for a lifetime?
The only way you gonna find that out is to set some rules when you meet somebody. Make sure that you know who they are cause honey let me tell you somethin', and hear me well, " a man can hold his breath but for so long, but soon he gone have to exhale and breathe again". You remember that.
Cause he gonna do all he can do in the first six months to reel you in. So don't let your guard down. Then some so good at it they will hold they breath for years then you really get to see who they are.
So just get to know somebody. Let him take you out show you a nice time, make sure he meet your friends and family and you meet his friends and family. Make sure he ain't scared to do nothing with you in public with the lights on in the day time. Make sure if you need him he know how to do something for you or knows someone who can. And you be a lady and stay that way. Don't be easy. Cause as easy as it is to get you, it will be easy to toss you and move on to someone and something else.
Lord this chicken is froze solid....you gone have to take me to the store in town and let me get some fresh chicken. You ain't scared to drive me now is you?